OUR MARITAL HEALTH/OWNING AND OPERATING YOUR OWN SEX CLINIC: FINDING OUT WHO’S THE MATTER WITH US – SEXUAL PROBLEMS AT COLD TIMES IN YOUR LIFE
At those times when we are running cold, feeling defeated, inadequate, and passive, our sexual response reflects this life-style. We all run hot and cold at different times, and when we are cold, we
xperience a “learned helplessness,” a feeling that there is little hope, that the world does not live up to our expectations and that our efforts to do much about it are ineffective.
The neuroendocrine system reflects this life orientation and influences sexual response. Here is a list of the cold sexual problems, and remember, the person is not cold, but his or her life-style at this particular time is.
MALE
Diminished pre-ejaculatory fluid
Abbreviated orgasmic contractions
Absence of orgasmic contractions
Diminished F- and/or R-area sensitivity
Prolonged contemplation
Decreased arousal
Absence of psychasms
Diminished sexual interest
Lengthening of refractory period
FEMALE
Diminished lubrication
Abbreviated orgasmic contractions
Absence of orgasmic contractions
Diminished G- and/or C-area sensitivity
Prolonged contemplation
Decreased arousal
Absence of psychasms
Diminished sexual interest
Lengthening of refractory period
Talk with your spouse about the problems you are having or might like to avoid. Remember that you are trying to provide a working diagnosis, not a verdict. Talk as much about how you are living as how you are loving, for they are really one and the same.
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